Front Porch Wedding

May 28, 2011

I married Mr. Kevin Richard Brimhall on the front porch of the Tolbert's residence in front of our close families and friends on Saturday. The girls wore flowers in their hair and seersucker dresses. I had a pair of very high heels and Mr. Brimhall sported a lovely grey suit. The weather held out and it didn't rain until the party had started. But we were already having a lovely time so the weather couldn't compete. We moved it inside and continued to celebrate happiness. Our families worked hard to help us prepare all the festivities and we couldn't have done it without them. The affair wasn't perfect, it rained and rained, and Ruby's hair was dreadful. But all the people we love were there to help us celebrate our future and our happiness. We couldn't have asked for a better way to do it.

As I thought and planned and knew a wedding was to be had it made me ill. It made me physically sick to think about planning a wedding or even having one. But I couldn't elope, mostly because Micall said she would think I was pregnant. I AM NOT.  We tossed dates around, ranging from August to June and none of them eased my unsettled stomach. I wondered if it was because I was getting married, or if it was Kevin but quickly knew it was the idea that there would be a wedding. A wedding where I was supposed to walk down the aisle, and everybody would watch and it would be awkward. I had a really, really big wedding once before and right now I just wanted to be married, married to Kevin without all the charades. The moment I half haphazardly through out the date of May 28, as in 17 days away, everything felt right. I sat on the phone with my mother and talked through a simple backyard barbecue and suddenly celebrating a wedding day seemed perfect. So we scrambled around and made a list. Kevin helped me make decisions and nothing was obsessed over. There was no fretting over clothing, colors or flowers. I didn't dwell on things after I made the decision. Deb saw my vision and I saw hers and Micall executed. Yes. I had no idea Micall knew how to throw a party but she does fantastically! She should throw more, because she orchestrated the whole ordeal flawlessly.

A ring was placed on my finger 10 days prior to the wedding day with the help of Stella asking if we could keep Kevin forever. I gladly accepted. It distracts me with all the sparkle, and I adore it. We were headed to Moab for the weekend to support the World Class Athlete, Hunter when Kevin hid the ring box in the glove box. As we were all loaded up to go, a very well rehearsed Stella asked if we could finally keep Kevin forever? Ruby was screaming in the background and Stella jumped out of her car seat and begged me to open the little box inside the box because there was a sparkly ring inside! Her little face was pure excitement, and who can blame her? With Stella climbing in my lap, Ruby SCREAMING to be noticed and Kevin giggling with excitement the moment was chaotic and overwhelming. But that is our life and it is all sort of perfect. I gladly told Stella that we could keep him forever, and her response couldn't have been better. She looked out the window and said "Good, cause sharing is NOT caring and I don't want to do it anymore."
For the days leading up to the wedding Stella June was thrilled. She told everyone around her and kept asking when the strong guys were going to move the Temple to Grandma Deb's house so we could get married there forever. I just smiled at my darling three year old and chose not to explain the intricacies of divorce and temple marriages. She will understand a year from now when Kevin and I walk out of the temple together. Ruby is glued to Kevin at all times, she just wants to be near him. It was like a switch flipped with both the girls when we officially decided we were getting married they understood. They knew what that meant and their love for Kevin sky rocketed. It always amazes me at how observant kids are and how much they pick up on what is going on around them.


Kevin has moved into our house full of girls and he fits just perfectly. There are a lot more loads of laundry to do and more milk to buy but having a boy around is very nice. Everyone is adjusting better than expected and we are just delighted.
More photos are to follow as soon as I get them back and again many thanks to all of those who helped make the day fantastic, it could not have happened with out you!
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