My very best friends, all 7 of them, were able to get away for the weekend. A weekend with no husbands, no children and no agenda. They managed through their messy schedules as well and coordinated everything on their ends so we could all be together. It's been ten years since we were in high school together spending the nights giggling. and thats a long time.
Molly, Jess, Ash and I arrived on Friday evening ready for the best weekend. We were greeted with a small rodent problem. A decomposing pica had caused havoc on the place and then there was a living pica that had that look in it's eyes, it was going to finish the job that the first pica had started. After some heavy gloves, boots and a lot, I mean a lot, of squealing took place, we caught the pica. Then it crawled up Molly's hair and we had to catch it again. Because obviously we squealed, shook, jumped and freaked it of her hair. Let's just say in the end it was taken care of.
We cleaned up the pica destruction, started a fire that never went out, cooked dinner, and as everyone else arrived we settled in. Meaning we all changed into our sweats and slippers. We drank more Diet Cokes than I predicted, didn't eat nearly all the snacks we brought, and we talked and talked. We talked in a group, we talked in little groups. The seats on the couches were rotated and everyone reconnected with each other. The fire kept us warm as we laughed until 4am, and even when we went to bed it was because we felt like it was the responsible thing to do. Everyone contributed to the weekend, everyone helped clean and took care of things when they saw them, not when asked. It was easy in all it's chaos, not because we didn't have to do work, clean, or cook; but easy because we all were doing it together, contributing together.
The next day repeated itself entirely and at the end of it we realized that together, we were women. Not just wives, mothers and employees. Not just volunteers at school or the Primary president. Nobody sat around and complained about our children or husbands. Really, nobody did. We talked about religion, life, futures, dreams and our own insecurities and fears. We buoyed each other up and held each other as we cried. We allowed ourselves to be women.
6 months ago when we scheduled this weekend, nobody anticipated it actually happening, and I guarantee that nobody knew how much we each needed it. Of all the travels I have done this year, and I feel like I have been gone on vacation an unrealistic amount of time, this has been the very most rejuvenating trip. I am a better mother and wife because of spending 48 hours with these 7 women.
Thank you girls for making the time to run away together, to be with each other, to help each other. To laugh until we cried, to feel normal in this crazy life. I love you all.